Are you MOTHERING your man????

Sometimes women get accustomed to the daily routine of cooking, cleaning, and nurturing offspring. This is supposed to be for HUSBANDS or CHILDREN, but have been connected to these so called "Babes in Toyland" type men. In the last decade or so, there has been quite a few men that enjoy sitting at home without a job being pampered by women FRIENDS. Yes, obviously they haven't recieved a title yet. He often explains to everybody that she is just his friend and he continues to reap the benefits that only a husband should recieve. These motherly type women choose to cater to these men without them having to make any committments. Most of these women have a fear of being rejected or suffer from some kind of abandonment issues. This in turn leads to wanting to control all situations and relationships. Women as a whole need to learn to be comfortable in their own skin and quit allowing men or past endeavors to define them. It takes a great deal of time and effort to raise a boy into a man, and that is almost impossible coming from only one woman. It takes even more patience to deal with a grown man still trying to find his way. The lack of patience in ourselves can lead to settling for something that looks good on the surface, but is down right trodden on the inside. To be loved is a feeling that is desired by many but not technically understood. When you control something it doesn't necessarily love you back the way you want it to. The one who is being controlled becomes resentful and mean spirited. This also becomes quite consuming and it alienates you from the rest of the world. A lot of women overcompensate by putting up fronts abour their weaknesses, so they choose men who they feel are weaker than them. This allows them to feel better about themselves and their position in life. The bad thing about this philosophy is that when you change, so does your control. When you no longer want to be in authority, the game plan changes. You start to see yourself in a different light and the man you once loved to control, now becomes a mere roach under your foot....EWWWWW!(making a stinky face).... The moral to this story is.......Allow these men to take control and take the lead. Woman are designed to be helpmates, not doormats....IJS!