Can a clique stay clique tight?

What is the meaning of friendships? Some friends are there in your life for a reason, some a season and few a lifetime. That word few should be encrypted in to your brain and permenantly implanted to keep you on your toes. Women are devious creatures. I know because I am one. So listen when I tell you that women believe in the eye for an eye, tooth for a tooth mechanism. I have been friends with my BFF Jill for over 10 years and we have been through hell and high water together. I also have two other friends that have been part of the clique for the same amount of time. But some people just seem to never grow up. This is the time of my life where my focus is on my family and my finances. If you aren't trying to grow then I am trying to go. I don't want to be an old lady still dreaming of what if's and How comes. For 2009 work on having positive people in your life who are about changing for the better. Too many people in life are so focused on other peoples faults that they can't see the strengths.

Do men think beyond the present?

I was having a conversation with my husband one night about relationships. We spoke a while about communication within a relationship. I explained to him that most women want to know the reasons WHY? to everything. If we get messed over we want to know why. If we notice that you didn't like something we want to know why?. If you didn't call us when we expected; of course we want to know why? Most women are very detailed and inqusitive about situations. Women think for the future, where as men think for the moment. I asked a friend of mine why he cheated on his wife and he shrugged his shoulders and said mens fave quote "I don't know". I looked at him and challenged him. We went on and on for hours and he still could not give me a definite explanation as to why? This is a mystery to me.

"Obama, Obama"

I am a bit pessimistic when it comes to political views and debates. That is the Leo in me. I like to take a situation and critique it and go against the grain. So when my coworkers indulged in a conversation about the presidential election and the possibilities of a BLACK president hitting the oval office, I was snarling waiting for my plan of attack. When I first heard the news of this Barack Obama I was like who in the he!# would elect this man with a name like that. Remembering I made this statement or assumption of him before I even took the time out to observe the guy. That is how I am in life. When I first hear about a person or meet them I automatically guard up. In this situation I felt as though a black man might not be ready for the pressures of this world at this particular time. Exspecially since the anti-christ George Bush made it such a hard road for us these last 8 years. I didn't want this man to be a poster child for "THE BLACK MAN THAT FUCKED UP THE ECONOMY". Excuse my french. You know the other color man will try to find a way to make us look like a fool. Throughout the election I made my cynical remarks and continued on believing that Barack was not the man for the job. Looking at his black lips and his "how do I say it" politically incorrect demeanor, I began to look at him as a joke. UNTIL, I saw my first debate. Boyyyy! It was like an action movie. Up and down, hot and cold. Then here comes Obama with his witty remarks and his hood antics. I was like WOW!!! this man is black, intelligent and fiesty. This is my kind of man. As I listened to his speech after he defeated McCain I was moved. It felt like a Martin Luther King moment. It felt like history repeating itself in a way like no other. We have a black president. This is a moment my grandparents dreamed of. I saw my gma smile and I looked at my life remembering the most influential portion of his speech "YES WE CAN"

Now write that in the history books. I know other persuasions are mad that they have to edit those textbooks and add a black man to it.....LOL!!!